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17 Things To Do So You Can Be A Real Adult In 2017

2016, the year of the fake adult is almost over and now is the time to prepare to be a real adult in just 17 easy steps. 

1. Buy an Expensive Looking Light For Your House


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Nothing says I’ve got it together like a baroque lampshade featuring stained glassed patterns that glow through the night as you return home from your busy day of being an adult.

2. Stop Chasing Birds


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It may be tempting, especially with the knowledge that if you were to race the bird you would most definitely win. But it’s time to stop. Chasing birds is for children and fake adults. Let the birds free, throw them a penny.

3. Have a Discussion With a Stranger at a Bar About the Economy While You Drink an Overpriced Cocktail


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This is a triple threat. You’re talking to a stranger, something you should get used to for your consultancy adult job; you’re discussing the economy, a prime topic for adults because everything ties back to the economy; and congratulations you’ve moved on from your basic vodka cranberry to a much more expensive version with a mint leaf, good for you.

4. Return All Your Stolen Traffic Cones


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Use that amazing mind of yours to remember all the different locations you have stolen your collection of traffic cones from. Take them back to their origin, where they can be reunited with their traffic cone family.

5. Call Now and Receive a Free Set of Steak Knives!


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Yes for the first 100 customers if you call now not only will you receive this amazing object that we are selling you, you will also receive free steak knives! Steak knives are amazing because you can use them on things other than steak including carrots! Never pay for steak knives again! Call now!

6. Buy a Newspaper and Read it on Public Transport

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That’ll show those old hags who said youths only use technology! Be sure to take up as much space as possible as you turn the pages. Don’t forget to do the crossword but give up when it’s 90% complete because you don’t know a 13 letter word for occurring by chance in a beneficial way (Serendipitous FYI).

7. Add More Adjectives to Your Coffee Order

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If you are not paying at least an extra 50 cents on the standard price of your coffee you’re doing it wrong. Change the milk. Add some flavouring. Get it extra hot.
For example, rather than a flat white try ordering a three quarter full almond milk double shot vanilla latte with absolutely no froth extra hot.
Make sure you take it back because it definitely wasn’t hot enough.

8. Stop Vague-Posting on Social Media


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You know who you are.

9. Get a Costco Membership


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Nothing says I am a real adult like bulk buying everything! Bulk buy some batteries, some toilet paper, and even a bag of potatoes. When guests come to visit show them your pantry and how many large packets of cereal and rice you own.

10. Invest in $30 Bottles of Wine Instead of the $5 Ones

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Bring it out at dinner parties! Let all your friends know that you bought it from the middle shelf instead of the top shelf! Pour it into a nice looking glass! Drink it! Celebrate! You are now middle class!

11. Wake Up Early on a Sunday to go to the Markets and Eat Some Poffertjes With Your Mother


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Let your mother know you are doing well, getting plenty of sleep, eating your greens, and brushing your teeth. As a reward she will pay for your poffertjes and possibly a fruit juice.

12. Visit a Lake House and Discover Yourself Along With a Family of Ducks


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Follow the trail of stepping stones to the lake right next to the lake house where a small lost duckling will lead you to it’s family. Don’t be fooled though, the ducks are only near you because of your delicious loaf of bread you always carry around in case you want an emergency jam sandwich.

13. Purchase a Variety of Cookbooks to Display in Your Kitchen


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Be sure to purchase ones with famous chefs such as Gordon Ramsay and Nigella Lawson on the cover so people know you are serious about cooking. Learn to use words like delectable, palatable, and succulent when preparing your dishes.

14. Start Watching Less Reality T.V. and More Home Improvement Shows


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A great way to transition between the two is watching reality home improvement shows such as The Block but eventually you will come to find Better Homes and Gardens to be quite pleasurable and your home and garden will have never looked better!

15. Throw Out Your Tea Bags and Start Buying Loose Leaf


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Tell everyone you like the way loose leaf tea infuses in your 100 degree water so you can really feel the flavour emulsifying through your soul. Lipton simply does not hit the spot anymore.

16. Aquire a SodaStream So You Can Ask Your Guests if They Want Their Water Still or Sparkling


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Be sure to also offer other water varieties such as coconut, tonic, or lightly infused with a lemon. Only add red cordial when you don’t have guests over.

17. Put Some Fresh Plants Around the House and Some Fresh Pants Around Your Legs


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Fresh plants to show you are caring like a mother to a child, fresh pants to show you know how to do laundry, both key components to becoming a successful adult.

 

An Open Letter to Tenplay

Dear Tenplay,

It was a regular Tuesday night when I received a message from my friend saying:

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I get excited. I haven’t had a chance to watch my favourite tv show Family Feud in some time due to moving home and not yet owning an antenna.

I haven’t really used TenPlay that much before. If I’m there I’m usually looking to rewatch an article from The Project, but I’m never after a full episode. But today was different. Today I was going to watch my favourite show hosted by the marvellous Grant Denyer, Family Feud. I arrived home, made some dinner, set up my laptop to play off the telly and headed to tenplay.com.au

There it was, almost as if it was expecting me, All Star Family Feud: The Bachelors vs The Bachelorettes.


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The show starts with a set of ads, which does disappoint me to a degree as I am used to Netflix where I can simply sail through a show without disruption. But I remind myself, if I were to be watching this on regular TV, I would be sitting through ads as well.

I hear the majestic start up music and the voice over telling me it is time for Family Feud. I’m excited, there is Grant Denyer, looking chipper as ever, ready to host a great game.

To the right, the Bachelors, I recognise Osher, next to him Richie, and two others who I couldn’t tell you who they were. To the left there is Georgia who’s face is familiar, Alex is next to her, and two other girls who once again I am not familiar with.

The show starts. Round one, a classic round, no bonuses, just raw honest-to-goodness Family Feud. All is good at this point, I’m enjoying the show, having a laugh, and playing along at home.

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An ad break comes along. It’s a little bit jarred, not the flawless transition between show to ad that I’m used to from live to air television. But it’s fine I let the ads go by, getting excited for round 2 of Family Feud.

A little jagged again but Family Feud returns with Grant Denyer smiling ear to ear ready to continue this glorious show. The game runs along smoothly, with the odd answer or two from the contestants with the boys taking the lead. I had almost forgotten All Star Family Feud had more rounds than regular Family Feud. It’s fine though, makes the lead up to my favourite round, Fast Money, all that much more exhilarating. Another round goes by, this time double points, giving the girls a chance to claim the lead, when another ad break starts.

Once again the cut is abrupt, but this time was different. Something was wrong. I guessed maybe my internet just needed to buffer, it happens on the best of video streaming services. Still, something is not right. My fears are slowly confirmed as I start to hear the audio for this advertisement play but watch as the picture does not move an inch.


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Odd.

Still, could just be my internet. I’ll let it sit for a bit as I happily munch away at my pasta, after all, my favourite round Fast Money is coming up!


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I sit there for about 5 minutes as my frozen screen doesn’t budge.

Don’t panic.

I’ll just take it out of full screen, that usually fixes things.

I leave the comfort of my couch to approach my laptop as my left hand emerges to hit the escape button.

Wait a minute, why is it still in full screen?

Maybe the computer didn’t realise I hit the button. It’s okay we all make errors, I once again hit the escape key.

Nothing. My screen is still frozen. This is not good. I’m going to have to close the tab.

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It’s fine, I can just reopen and find my place. I’m not happy about it but it’s okay because I remember Grant Denyer is there and I remember my favourite round Fast Money is coming up. Reluctantly, I raise my hand to hit both the command and the w key at the same time, indicating to my computer that I wish to close the tab.

Okay what?

This frozen ad is still here. It’s still in full screen, it’s still open, and it’s still not All Star Family Feud.

It’s fine, maybe my simultaneous key pressing was slightly out of sync and I just need to concurrently push these two buttons again, being more aware of my timing to show my computer that I mean it. I want to exit the tab.


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Nothing.

Now at this point I am mad. I’m mad because the next step isn’t just closing a tab. It’s closing Chrome completely, meaning not only would I lose my spot in this episode of All Star Family Feud, I would also lose all the other tabs I had open. I’m not happy. I came here to watch All Star Family Feud with Grant Denyer and his Bachelors and Bachelorettes. I know for certain I did not open tenplay.com.au because I wanted to freeze my computer.

Hesitantly, I move my finger from above the W key one over to the Q key. I am going to quit Chrome. I lower my fingers to hit both the command and the Q keys in unison, preparing myself for Chrome to disappear.


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What.
No!
Why is it still there?

In frustration, I hit the keys multiple times, why won’t it quit!?

At this point, I know there is no other option, a tear trickles down my face as I realise I’m going to have to shut down my computer. How could you do this to me Tenplay? I thought we were friends? I only came here to have a night of smiles, laughter, and joy, but instead I am hurt, betrayed, and scared.

My right hand trembles as I slowly glide it over the keyboard to reach the power button. The key is shining in comparison to the rest of my keyboard. Why you ask? Well, I barely need to use it. But today, today I am giving the power button a turn. Shaking, I let my index finger lower onto the power button, press, and hold.


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Tenplay, I’ve been hurt before, people have called me names, pushed me around, and really played with my mind. But let me tell you, out of all of these experiences, being betrayed by the server who was hosting my favourite show, Family Feud, RIGHT before my favourite round of Fast Money is going to start, that cuts the deepest.

Finally, the screen goes black as all power is taken away from my laptop.
I’m devastated, shattered, and overwhelmed with a combination of sadness and anger.
Tenplay you left me with so many questions.


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Who wins? Is it The Bachelors or The Bachelorettes? Who plays Fast Money? Do they make a fool of themselves? Do they win the $10,000? Are there any other ridiculous answers coming up that I didn’t get to see? How does the triple points round go? What were the other questions that they surveyed 100 Australian’s to find the answers for? Does anyone pick up Grant Denyer at the end of the show?

Tenplay, you not only froze my computer, you froze my heart. I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to trust you again. What’s to stop you freezing my computer during another episode of one of my favourite television programs?

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If I can take anything away from this traumatic experience it is:

1. Don’t trust streaming services you’re not used to (Netflix can stay)
2. Buy an antenna so you don’t miss anymore episodes of Family Feud

Yours Sincerely,

Liana

22 Things To Do When You’re 22 Because The World Is Ending Anyway

I’m not sure what happened this year, but anyone who thought 2012 was the apocalypse has something coming for them. So in light of recent events I’ve created a bucket list (more like fuck-it list) for those aged 22.

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1. Fail Geography


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The world is screwing you. Literally. I don’t need to remind you of a recent presidential election because it’s all over your news feeds. Failing geography is the ULTIMATE way to get back at the world. It’s like saying, hey guess what world, I don’t give a damn where your countries are cause you don’t give a damn about me. Take that Earth!

2. Drink 22 Cups of Coffee** in One Day


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Yes okay, there is an extremely high chance you will have a heart attack but really what good is a heart when the world is turning into an extreme dictatorship? Drink the coffee **(or your choice of other caffeinated beverage) instead, it’ll be funny.

3. Invent Your Own Instrument and Learn How to Play It

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Gone are the days when saying to someone “yeah I play the guitar/piano/any other generic instrument” was cool. Now say you invented the Glucasheer? No one else can play that! You will literally get flooded with booty calls and marriage proposals because there is nothing more sexy than a glucasheerist! Unf!

4. While You’re At It, Invent a New Language

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Haabuaa chon %%2 Grakt!  I bet you don’t know what I just said. No one does cause I’m the only one who can speak Liananese. You too could be as impressive as me and all you have to do is invent your own language, easy! You don’t even need to remember it because you invented it so you can just adapt as need be. GK#agewa!!!

5. Have Sax

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No that wasn’t a typo. I want you to go find something that starts with Sax and have it. Options include Saxophone, my friend Saxon, Saxony, or Saxe-Coburg-Gotha. Get creative. Go have Sax.

6. Get a Tattoo.

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LITERALLY enough excuses, stop lying to yourself, you know you want one. If you’re stuck for ideas get a dog wearing a space helmet. Or a taco. There is something out there for you, now go permanently stick it on your body.

7. Rock

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This one is open to interpretation. This could mean go to a rock concert and do devil fingers; pick up a rock, take it home and care for it as you would your own child;  or simply sit in a corner of a room and rock back and forth, after all the world is ending.

8. Visit a Graveyard

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You may never end up in one of these places because the planet is going to explode when we all  eventually get consumed by the sun. Just another thing previous generations have taken away from us.

9. Do Stand-Up


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You can borrow some of these jokes it’s fine, I don’t even know who owns the copyright to them anyway.

“I think people who like semi-sundried tomatoes are impatient!”
“Did you hear they opened a cafe on the moon? Yeah the coffee’s good but there’s no atmosphere!”
“Do you think Bruce Willis will keep making action movies cause you know what they say about old habits!”

10. Don’t Start a Blog

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The market is already saturated. Read mine instead. Even when you aren’t 22. Just read it okay!

11. Watch a Movie

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Chances are you’ve already done this before but I highly recommend you watch at least 1 movie while you’re 22. Maybe 2 if you’re feeling adventurous. There are no limits to how many movies you can watch. Do it. Watch 200 if you want.

12. Steal Some Steel

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Think about how meta this is. I dunno where you’re going to find the steel, maybe Bunnings (don’t steal from Bunnings that’s so unaustralian) or an abandoned building site. Just do it. Once you’ve done it you will then reach Nirvana.

13. Paint Your Nails

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“Err but Liana I’m a dude and all I care about is making sure everyone knows I’m hetero?” WELL guess what random hetero who I don’t even know is reading this, PAINT YOUR GODDAMN NAILS I AM SICK OF EXCUSES.

14. Play Poker While Lady Gaga’s Poker Face Plays in the Background On Repeat

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This is self-explanatory.

15. Listen to Taylor Swift’s 22, Listen to Lily Allen’s 22, Write a Comparative Essay

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Bonus points if you find another song called 22 and add it to the essay. Don’t question why you have to write an essay, and to think you thought your essay writing skills from high school would go to waste.

16. Be Demi

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demi- |ˈdɛmi| prefix

1 half; half-size: demisemiquaver.
2 partially; in an inferior degree: demigod.

Add Demi to the front of whatever you wish and be it. This could include demi-fish, demi-shady, demi-Cruella-De-Vil, or even Demi-Demi (either Demi Lovato or my good friend Demi, your choice).

17. Make Some Memeories

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Again not a typo. I bet you’re wondering what a Memeory is. Well it’s somewhere between a meme and a memory. Obviously. So instead of the typical making memories, while you’re making memories, add some memes. Try and dig up some vintage memes, really add some spice to your Memeories.

18. Say “Maybe” to Everything For a Day

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I’m so sick of being told to always say yes. Saying no is too negative. So say maybe.

“Hey Liana wanna get some drinks tonight?”
“Maybe”

“Did you want to disassemble some systematic oppression?”
“Maybe”

“Do you want to get hanky panky before you get danky?” (who even says that?)
“Maybe”

19. Real Life Mario Kart

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Time to get off your Wii and build some real life karts. Dress up as your favourite Mario Bros characters while you’re at it. Also build rainbow road. Don’t let your dreams be dreams.

20. Befriend a local Murder of Crows

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Crows will remember you. You should befriend them because when the earth does become post-apocalyptic crows are going to have your back. Crows before hoes.

21. Write your memoirs

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I know what you’re thinking. I’m only 22 how could I possibly have enough to say to fill up an entire 1,000 page novel? Look this isn’t my problem but if you follow the rest of this list you’ll have loads to talk about (see: stealing steel).

22. Give me $100

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Contact me directly I’ll give you my bank details. Cheers.
(I also accept cash, cheque, or Paypal).

That’s Not My Name

Please press play on this song while you admire the many different ways people have attempted to spell my name at coffee shops.

The Ting Tings – That’s Not My Name

The Ting Tings’ official music video for ‘That’s Not My Name’. Click to listen to The Ting Tings on Spotify: http://smarturl.it/TingTingsSpotify?IQid=TTTingsTNMN As featured on We Started Nothing.

Let’s start with a simple one, only one letter off not so bad.

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For some reason people love adding extra letters to my name.

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… lots of extra letters…

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I’m not entirely sure how, but more than one person decided this was the best way to spell my name.

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As for this person…

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…I don’t think they even tried.

Retail Woes

“Hey Liana, what do you do for work?”
“I’m a retail slave”

A gust of wind breezes past as the words uttered out of my mouth hit one of two reactions

“same”
or
“I’m so sorry”

I started working in the illustrious retail industry back when I was 16 and scored my first Christmas job.  This was after doing my time working for ~the fresh food people~ and deciding there were better ways to earn a living than selling groceries, so why not try other sorts of retail?

I should mention here that I actually do love my current job I get to work with amazing people and 90% of the time we actually have really pleasant customers.

But that 10%, boy do they grind your gears.
I’d just like to share some examples of some real conversations I’ve had with customers over the years:

Me: “Would you like you to put your items in one of our $2 charity bags today?”
Customer: “How much are they?”
Me: “$2, and they go towards our charity”

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Me: “Hey, how are you?”
Customer: “JUST LOOKING!!!!!!!!!”

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Customer: “Hey I’m looking for this item that I saw in store two years ago, do you still have it?”
Me: “… two years ago?”
Customer: “yeah do you still have it?”
Me: “we don’t even have the same stock as one week ago….”
Customer: “are you getting it back?”
Me: “I’m gonna have to say no, but you could always try our DFO stores?”

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Customer: “hey do you have this item in stock?”
Me: “No sorry I had a look for it earlier and we’re out of stock on that one”
Customer: “can you just check out the back?”
Me: “I checked out the back earlier for it, we don’t have it.”
Customer: “Just go have another look you might have missed it!”
Me: *reluctantly heads to the back room knowing for certain we don’t have the item the customer wants*
Me: *stands in the backroom for a few minutes, grabs some water, checks phone messages, comes back out*
Me: “sorry we don’t have it”
Customer: “Oh okay well thanks for looking!”

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Customer: “why is it this price? online it’s different!”
Me: “our online store runs separately to in store so the sales are different sometimes”
Customer: “but I got an email saying it was this price online!”
Me: “unfortunately that would be the online price which is different to in store”
Customer: “can you just give it to me at this price?”
Me: “…. no?”
Customer: *storms out the store in a rage because they don’t understand the internet*

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Me: “Just so you know at the moment you’re buying two of these items for $14 but if you grab a third one you can actually get all three for $10, so you save money!”
Customer: “But I only want two?”
Me: “I’m just letting know it actually comes out cheaper if you grab another one, you save money!”
Customer: “No I just want two.”
Me:“okay well if you’re sure”
*same customer walks back two minutes later with third item*
Customer: “Actually I do want three can you give me my money back and I’ll have this one?”
Me: *tries to remain calm*

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Customer: “hey I bought this two years ago and it stopped working, can I have a refund?”
Me: “Two years ago….?”
Customer: “yeah and it doesn’t work anymore so it’s faulty so I want a refund”
Me: “I’m just going to go grab a manager….”


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And of course my all time favourite….

Me: Just so you know because you’re making a purchase today you can actually grab one of our –
Customer: *Proceeds to place hand in my face* NO!! I find it so disrespectful when people try to sell me things I don’t want!!
Me: “… so that comes $18.95…..”

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Manic Pixie Dream Girl Reality Check

There she is, sitting there at a cafe no one’s actually heard of cause it’s so underground – probably called C8H10N4O2 (chemical compound for caffeine, because that’s hipster-geek). On her table, a vegan soy mocha frappe, in her hand a classic Penguin novel, probably ‘The Great Gatsby’. On her iPod classic, The Smiths are playing, with some other band you’ve probably never heard of.  She’s got green hair and some sort of facial piercing and maybe a tattoo on her sternum which just the thought of brings back memories of your first boner as an 11-year-old.

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And she is obviously PERFECT. I mean her vegan drink means she cares about animals, right? So she’s obviously loving. Her classic novel? An appreciation for REAL literature, not just trashy celebrity gossip magazines like most girls. Oh and The Smiths! Finally someone who appreciates AUTHENTIC MUSIC not the techno rubbish you hear on the radio these days. Her green hair and other modifications show she’s confident, sassy, and doesn’t care what other people think. And just by looking at her, you know she’s the one! She’s got a cool name too, like Ailish or Indigo or something, which, as you can imagine, flows so nicely with your last name.

It’s obvious just by staring at her from 10 metres away that you are destined to be together. Finally you’ve found her, your manic pixie dream girl. You muster up the courage to talk to her and seem to get along well enough – not that it’s a surprise cause you’re definitely soulmates – which leads to meeting up, hanging out, and getting to know each other.

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This is where you find out the following:
– She was only drinking that vegan drink because she’s lactose intolerant, doesn’t actually care about animals and purposely runs over toads when she can.
– She was only reading The Great Gatsby because she thought Leonardo DiCaprio was really hot in the film, but gave up on the novel within the first few chapters.
– Her shelves are filled with copies of Vogue, Cosmo, and even the occasional Who magazine.
– Her favourite shows are Keeping Up With The Kardashians and Geordie Shore
– She knows one song by The Smiths. You guessed it, ‘There Is a Light That Never Goes Out’, which she only knows from 500 Days of Summer (which she thought Joseph Gordon-Levitt was really hot in).
– The rest of her iPod is filled with top 40 music.
– She woke up at 4am to buy Justin Bieber tickets only a few weeks ago.
– The hair? A mistake. She was trying to go blonde at home but mixed it all wrong and ended up with a green colour she never wanted to have.
– Her piercing was a dare from her best friend (who you simply can’t stand) and her tattoo… well turns out there is no sternum tattoo.

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But wait a second? This isn’t the girl you fell in love with at C8H10N4O2? Is it? No that girl was cultured, she loved REAL art, and CARED about animals? Why does she shorten her gorgeous name Indigo, the same shade as her eyes, to the name Indi? This is clearly NOT the girl who you met at that cafe and you only have one option now but to bail. I mean how dare she not be exactly as you envisioned?

So tomorrow when you see Ailish sitting at C8H10N4O2 reading Catcher in The Rye with her steaming hot green tea, you’ll know this time around you’ve definitely found the one.

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Double Degree Dialogue

“So Liana, tell me a bit about yourself, what do you do?”
“So, I’m studying at the moment, working casually, and doing an internship”
“Oh cool, what are you studying?”
“I study a double degree in Journalism and Business, majoring in Public Relations.”

SELECT RESPONSE ACCORDINGLY:

Category 1: I know nothing about either of those things

– “That’s cool, which one are you leaning towards?”
– “What do you want to do with that?”
– “Haha, double degree! Bet you’re going to be at uni forever!”
– “Wow that must take up ALL your time!”
– “That’s really cool I know nothing about either of those things I never finished high school.”
– “You should get an internship.”
– “Haha so you’re gonna be on TV?”
– “What’s your dream job?”
– *blank stare* “What’s that?”

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Category 2: I have a friend who studies Media and Communications/Mass Communication so I assume that’s the same thing

– “You should have a back up.”
– “I bet you’re going to meet so many celebrities!”
– “I saw Osher Günsberg in person once so I can probably get you a job.”
– “You should get an internship.”


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Category 3: I know someone who studies Journalism as well

– “Journalism is a dying industry, you’re smart to have a back up!”
– “My sister used to date Karl Stefanovic, bet she could get you a job!”
– “I used to date Karl Stefanovic, bet I can get you a job!”
– “You should get an internship.”
– “You should start a blog.”
– “You should get Twitter.”
– “You should get LinkedIn.”
– “You should go online, newspapers are dying!”
– “Too bad no one watches TV anymore!”
– “Journalism is so bad the media is so corrupt!”
– “I hear journalism is a really cut-throat industry.”
–  “You should definitely do journalism!”


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Category 4: I know someone who

A: studies marketing or advertising and I assume they’re the same thing

– “Does that mean you get no electives? That sucks dude!”
– “Do you think you’ll work for an agency?”
– “You should get an internship.”
–  “PR is so bad it’s all just spin!”

B: I know someone who studies business and don’t understand the concept of majors

– “So what kind of job can you get from that?”
– “You should start your own business.”
– “You should get an internship.”
– “It’s not about how smart you are, it’s about who you know!”
– “My aunt runs a business I bet she can get you a job!”

C: I know someone who studies PR

– “Thats cool! I know someone who studies PR!”
– “PR is all just partying!”
– “You should get an internship.”


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Category 5: I study Journalism

– “Oh yeah I study journalism too!”
– “I study journalism as well at (insert rival uni).”
– “I study journalism but with (insert degree other than business).”
– “I can’t believe you’re studying the dark arts!”
– “PR people are so annoying!”
– “I thought you looked familiar, were you in (insert class) last year?”
– “Sucks you’re doing a double, I study journalism and love electives.”
– “You should do PR.”
– “You should get an internship.”


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Category 6: I study Public Relations

– “I study PR as well!”
– “Journalists are so annoying!”
– “I study PR at (insert rival uni).”
– “I study PR but with (insert other degree or second major).”
– “You should get LinkedIn.”
– “You should get an internship.”
– “Do you think you’ll work for an agency?”
– “Journalism is a dying industry, you should do PR!”


(source: http://www.huffingtonpost.com)

Category 7: I study a double degree in Journalism and Business majoring in Public Relations

– “Same.”


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Mental Illness Does Not Define You

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I saw a post today in a Facebook group asking if you would date someone with anxiety or depression.

It really struck a cord with me, that someone would even ask this at all, as if a person’s mental illness was what entirely defined them and no other factor about that person made any difference.

I really want people to start talking about mental illness the same way we talk about diabetes.

I’m going to put a little side note here and say I am not a doctor, I’m not a psychologist, I’m not a nurse, so all this information is simply from my own research.

Let me explain diabetes for a second. Diabetes is when the body is unable to convert glucose into energy due to lack of a hormone called insulin. A diabetic either has no insulin or does not produce a sufficient amount. 

Each type of diabetes has its own complications and there are other factors involved but for the point of this post this is what you need to know.

Diabetes is very manageable. A diabetic will inject insulin into their body, monitor their blood sugar levels and try their best to maintain healthy diet and exercise.

I personally know a number of people with diabetes. Generally when I find out someone has diabetes I don’t decide it is their most defining factor. I try to change my behaviours in order to help them manage their diabetes by doing things like making sure when we go out to eat there is something on the menu that would be suitable for them, and with some of my closer diabetic friends even offer to help with insulin injections when needed.

So to sum up, diabetes is a lack of insulin, treated by medication and managing their blood-glucose levels.

I know there are lots of different types of mental illnesses but for the point of this post I’m going to talk specifically about depression.

Depression is a chemical imbalance. It is where the brain doesn’t produce enough serotonin, norepinephrine and dopamine. These collectively are known as monoamines – or the mood-related chemicals. 

Again there are a number of other factors surrounding depression, but for now this is what you need to know.

There are a lot of different ways to treat depression, but the most common ones are taking antidepressants to help restore those chemical levels, and seeing either a psychologist or psychiatrist to look into the root causes of the depression and learning how to manage it.

So to sum up, depression is a lack of monoamines, treated by medication and learning to manage living with the illness.

I’m hoping at this stage the point I’m trying to bring across has become obvious. The two conditions, both nearly as common as the other, are very very similar medically.

So why is it that one of them makes us entirely change the perspective of how we view a person and the other is more likely to make us change our behaviour in order to help that person?

I want us to start talking about mental illness the same way we talk about diabetes, because just like diabetes, mental illness does not define a person.

Sources:

  1. https://www.diabetesaustralia.com.au/
  2. https://www.beyondblue.org.au/
  3. My own experiences

Nice Guys Finish Last

My most recent musing is starting to make me feel a little bit like Carrie Bradshaw. Talking to my friends about this, seeing where there is common ground and asking the ultimate question of, why are we like this?

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I recently matched with someone on tinder –  lets call him Dan* – who seemed like a cool enough person so we chatted for a while before eventually sharing numbers.

I need to add a disclaimer here, where even though I know “I’m really busy” is a well known excuse for rejecting someone; between uni, working casually, and interning at a radio station, I am genuinely a really busy person. 90% of the time when I say this I am being legitimate.

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Things seemed to be running smoothly with Dan so we agreed to meet up. Despite these plans and genuinely being extremely busy for a couple of weeks, I started to lose interest in Dan extremely fast. Don’t get me wrong, I love a good compliment just as much as the next person, but being constantly flattered and having unnecessary praise put onto you, especially from someone who barely knows a thing about you is a big no from me.  And so what originally was a genuine “I’m really busy” has turned into something less authentic.

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Two of my closest friends ended their most recent relationships for similar reasons. I have heard both of them say the exact phrase “he was too nice.”  The one, now ex-boyfriend, I did meet I can totally agree with my friend.  He is easily one of the nicest people I know. But in terms of relationships this can be unappealing to a fault. Of course in both of these scenarios there were other circumstances which led to the break-ups, but the one thing they both had in common was niceness.

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“But Liana, isn’t that exactly what you wanted from Tom* and Larry*?” my good friend Amity would ask. Well yes Amity, maybe this is true, but maybe I would have never been interested in Tom or Larry in the first place if they had been nice people?

Earlier in the year I was casually seeing Tom. He wasn’t an absolute asshole but “nice” is probably the last word I would use to describe him. Sometimes my texts got replies, other times he made it super obvious he was getting with someone else, on occasion I’d get the inappropriate question, and maybe if I was lucky we would get to hang out – on his terms of course. Reflectively the whole situation was pretty messed up, I haven’t heard from Tom in 3 months (and that’s probably for the best).

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Larry was much nicer but also more confusing. In person things were happy as, well Larry, and yet I still would be lucky to get replies to my texts, was talked to in quite a rude manner, and still could only hang out on his terms. Time with Larry was short lived and I know now that things ended due to him starting a serious relationship with someone else. I can only hope that Larry is treating this person better than he did me.

I think maybe we are all searching for a middle ground. Somewhere between being nice enough that I’m going to hear back from you but not so nice that your corny messages and excessive compliments make me want to puke.

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Until next time, Liana out.

*yes I did change these names, could you imagine, Liana and Larry. Ha.

Self-Esteem

As I was sitting in the bathroom reapplying my fake tan, right after spending the night getting my fake nails put on, something occurred to me. Why is it that I put this sort of effort into my appearance?

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I’ve got one word for you: self-esteem. (After having a debate as to whether that is one or two words, can confirm is one).  Other than getting that Offspring song stuck in my head, the whole concept of self-esteem really gets me thinking.

I mean in terms of why I get my nails done and put fake tan on the answers are obvious. 1. Fake nails stop you chewing your actual nails (gross but true), 2. So I can look more Italian, which is obviously any Italian-Australian’s life goal.

So really, neither of those things are really a self-esteem issue. But I do remember being 14 years old and being super judgemental of the people who did these exact same things. It brings me back to the original question, why put in all this effort? Perhaps some people do feel embarrassed by the whiteness of their skin (I mean same, but that’s a racial issue and for another day), or maybe they put layers upon layers of makeup on to cover up some nasty acne scarring?

Funnily enough back in the day when I was 14 and had the same amount of self esteem as Donald Trump has brain cells, caking on layers of makeup along with drawing on eyeliner so thick that I’d be giving Taylor Momsen a run for her money, was very much about being ashamed.

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Now days you still won’t see me leave the house** without a layer of foundation and winged eyeliner on at the least, but just like the fake tan and the fake nails it’s not really a self esteem issue anymore. In some ways it’s the exact opposite.

I could go on a massive rant about how messed up it is that young girls are so ashamed of the way they look at this age, and I know it’s not just me. I had a friend who covered up every mirror in her house because her self-esteem was that bad. I could go on about how it’s a collective issue of tv shows hiring 20-year-old actors to play 15-year-old characters, or magazines advertising EVERY possible beauty product under the sun (obviously including fake tan).

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Instead I’m trying to work out what was the exact moment where I told myself that stuff didn’t matter? I know for certain that I am not entirely comfortable in my own skin, but I do know that I’m getting there. I know that instead of trying to cover up how I look with layers of makeup I use simple products to highlight one of my favourite features, that being my eyes.

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I guess the point I’m trying to get at is, even despite the acrylics at the ends of my hands, or the not-so-natural glow (which did I mention is completely skin cancer free), or those little black strokes which seem to be permanently on my eyelids, it’s not necessarily a self-esteem issue, it’s about showing the world your best face, literally and metaphorically.

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**the small exception to this rule is either on the rare occasion I have to be somewhere before 6am or the just as rare occasion I’m doing some sort of physical exercise